The Lovers

Sexuality
Understanding the Life Force

"Is my new love truly compatible with me?" Many people ask us this question. Rob Tillett, one of the founders of Astrology on the Web, explains that we are naturally attracted by our energy affinities, yet also by desirable characteristics that are more or less lacking in ourselves. A potent sexual attraction plugs in to these features, in a stimulating, compelling energy exchange. Comparing two people's birth charts identifies the nature of the energy exchange and gives a reliable clue to the outcome of the relationship. Now, read on...

The heartfelt yearning to be close to someone is perhaps the deepest and most powerful urge experienced by anyone in the world. We long to unite with our loved ones, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The urge is so strong it is surrounded by taboos and strictures imposed by society, but the powerful life force cannot be so easily subdued.

Astrologically speaking, everyone (and everything) on this planet reflects an expression of a polarised energy field, or Life Force. The force is present everywhere, but is visible to us through its material expression in terms of polarity, the balance between two extremes. The urge of the life force generates our sexuality.

Polarity, the balance between two extremes

Each astrological sign reveals degrees of polarity. For instance, Aries is hot and dry, positive, masculine and diurnal (light). It's pretty full-on! Pisces, on the other hand, is cool and moist, feminine and nocturnal (dark). It's much more laid back.

Of course, not all Aries types are frenetic over-achievers, nor are all Pisceans dreamy idealists. Each human being is a balancing act, involving many often contrary astrological phenomena. This balancing of polarities generates the marvellous breadth and depth of human character, creating a world of unique individuals, each living and breathing at the centre of a vibrant web of interaction.

Human beings, men, women and children, all display polarity according to sex, sign and factors such as ruling planet, planetary aspect and house position. The keys to sexuality in the horoscope, however, are Venus and Mars, or desire and action. Here is polarity in action: Venus is the emblem of the feminine side, while Mars is the opposite, polar emblem of masculinity. The interpretation of the horoscope is fundamental to a true understanding of our sexual polarities.

Venus and Mars

Put simply, in a man's horoscope, Venus represents the sorts of women to whom he is attracted, whilst Mars indicates the kinds of actions he will take in order to achieve his desires. In a woman's horoscope, the placement of Mars represents the types of men she is interested in, whilst Venus represents the ways in which she will present herself, in order to attract them. At least, this is the traditional view. In charts of relationships, the aspects and mutual aspects to Venus and Mars are significant in establishing the sexual components of the relationship itself.

The life force flows along subtle channels, or pathways between people. When you plug in to that special person, the experience can be electifying! But relationships work on many levels other than the physical/emotional conduits of the force. To explore the potential of your relationships, you can order a Relationship Analysis, or a Soul Connection chart from us, to see what the stars hold in store.

We are naturally attracted by our affinities, yet also by desirable characteristics which are to some degree lacking in ourselves. A potent sexual attraction plugs in to these features, in an energy exchange that is both stimulating and compelling. This exchange seems designed to develop the generation of new life and the ultimate continuance of all life on earth.

Sexual Freedom

Women today (at least in the West) have the sexual freedoms once the prerogative of men. Reliable birth control and technologically mediated voyeurism – even virtual sex – have become a reality, so people of both sexes (and those somewhere in between) can freely express their sexuality over the full potential for actualisation.

This is a new development, not seen since primitive times before the establishment of the patriarchial hegemony. In those ancient days, sexuality was a sacrament, child raising was a communal responsibility, and property rights (such as they were!) carried through the female line, for the concept of fatherhood had not yet been developed. Mars and Venus had a field day!

Aspects to Venus and Mars in the birth chart and how these planets are placed by sign, dignity and elevation, can be clear indicators of sexual behaviour. Venus in Scorpio, for example, is considered weak, especially if further debilitated by aspect. It can express intense, even compulsive or deviant sexual behaviour. The polarity of this position means some individuals may drop sex altogether and focus on spiritual goals, or even other all-consuming activities such as art or charitable works.

Infinite Complexities

There are infinite complexities in relationships. Astrological analysis at this level gives us a rule of thumb, not an absolute. Venus and Mars have other symbolic levels of meaning, whilst the Sun represents the husband in a woman's chart and the Moon represents the wife in the chart of a man (the Sun also stands for the father and the Moon for the mother in anyone's chart, for astrological symbolism works at many levels).

The life force flows along subtle channels, or pathways between people. When you plug in to that special person, the experience can be electifying! But relationships work on many levels other than the physical/emotional conduits of the force. The complex set of energies that make up the whole person determines our attractions, our relationships and our destinies. To explore the potential of your relationships, you can order a Relationship Analysis, or a Soul Connection chart from us, to see what the stars hold in store.